I’ve done a lot of research on vaginismus and I’ve never found resources quite like yours and the resources I found previously were always written from doctors or “professionals” that never went through vaginismus themselves. Hearing from someone that has personally gone through everything I’ve been through brought a new sense of hope to me. 

To anyone that is experiencing vaginismus: grab any resource you can get your hands on from Katrin. You will find a new sense of encouragement from doing this. 

Katrin, thank you again for all of your love, compassion, and vulnerability.

- Anonymous

"I feel like such a pathetic girlfriend and it's ruining my life."

"I'm seriously considering leaving my husband because I feel I'm being unfair to him and he deserves better. Feelings of shame and guilt overwhelm me."

"He's convinced I'm trying to 'sabotage our relationship'."

"My husband lost all connection with me, abuses and insults me. This vaginismus has killed me."

"I wonder if I have to forget about the idea of having a baby... I think it’s not meant to be for me."

"In the last year, my libido has plummeted. I have ZERO sex drive and am too tired to even attempt to like it."

"No lube has ever been able to help this wall that I put up. I have never been able to insert anything down there."

"I've been trying to dilate and open up but it hurts and it's SO uncomfortable. I wonder is it always going to be this hard. Why is it so tight?!"

"After years of not being able to insert anything, I was able to insert the first and second dilator, but feel a strong burning sensation. It stops only when the dilator is removed or a while after that."

"I always get nauseous and my heart races whenever I try to insert anything or touch that area. I even fainted once while trying with a tampon."

"I look at the five-piece dilator set and try to imagine how these pieces of plastic can erase nearly four years of painful sex."

"I saw many doctors before I found ONE that knew the condition."

"None of the doctors I've been to seemed to know about vaginismus and when I would make them stop because I was in pain, they got mad at me."

I can only have a pap smear if I'm sedated."

"My gynaecologist thinks 'it's all in my head'. She told me to try to relax."

"I nearly drank myself to death when I was 18 years old trying to cure myself of this. My doctor had suggested I try drinking to calm my nerves."

"My doctor said my body's just not ready and that 'all I can do is wait'."

"My doctor assumed I had an STD and recommended to 'be more careful and limit my partners to one'."

"After a huge struggle, I can finally say that my vaginismus is cured!! I can have easy, enjoyable PIV! Haven't been this happy in so long!!"

"We were finally able to have sex in different positions which I think means we don’t have to go to physical therapy again!! And it wasn’t even painful!! We have 3 1/2 positions down whoo!"

"My husband and I had pain free sex!! I can’t believe it!! It started out rough at first but then we took a break and when he went back in... no pain. Insane! Here I am, having sex with my husband, and it gets better every day!"

"I didn't think it would actually be THIS good!!"

"I had severe vaginismus and was cured after over 25 years of suffering. Never give up hope. If I could do it, you can too!"

"I am able to easily insert large dilators pain free! PAIN FREE! My depression and anxiety have eased so much and I feel encouraged, empowered and in charge of my own body - for the first time in my life!"

"Last month I successfully had intercourse and have been doing so since! I'm now dating someone who I love and trust very much and we have intercourse, like, constantly. Even when I imagined pain free intercourse I never imagined that it would feel so good and have no discomfort. I cry a little just thinking about how amazed I am that this is happening for me... I just want to say that it's possible even if you can't imagine it right now."

"We managed to have sex last night!! We went away for the evening and I really wasn't expecting it to happen."

"I was able to get past years of vaginismus in about 3 months, to the point where I am having PAIN FREE PIV sex, enjoyable oral sex, using tampons (for the first time in my 31-year-old life), and recently had a successful, and dare I say, easy, pap smear. My gynaecologist has since 'un-diagnosed' me from vaginismus! A big part of the healing was talking about the process with an inner circle of close women friends, sharing my progress with them, as well as writing about it. Sending my love and support to my fellow women dealing with pelvic pain. You can do this."